It took me only 13 days to stop complaining for a week

#38. 101 things in 1001 days: Don’t complain about anything for a week.

I survived the computer lab fiasco that is detailed in my cartoon above without complaining, only to be done in by ice cream, so I started over. And over. And over.

On my first day, I felt pretty good getting through an entire school day without complaining, but I quickly discovered there are a lot of gray areas. What exactly constitutes a complaint? While some complaints are instantly recognizable, in other situations I may be rightly asserting myself. Is it the tone that makes it a complaint? The repetition?

Then I posted the above cartoon on Facebook, and a colleague ruled it a complaint. I countered that I was expressing myself through art, as artists have done through the ages. I suppose Picasso was complaining when he created Guernica, eh? She didn’t buy it.

That debate became moot the same night when I muttered to my husband, “Why didn’t you get something with chocolate in it?” when he surprised us with ice cream, and I was busted on Day 2.

I started over and got tripped up again on my new Day 2 when there was some miscommunication about a track practice pickup. Then when my husband came home late on a night we had dinner plans, I had to start yet again.

I finally made it through this challenge, or did I? I might have just relaxed the rules on what counts as a complaint. I did make some improvements in avoiding “venting” at work. Let’s face it: venting doesn’t do anybody any good.

I read this blog post that mentioned four typical learning phases:

  1. Unconscious incompetence
  2. Conscious incompetence
  3. Conscious competence
  4. Unconscious competence

I think at best I was entering Phase 2: conscious incompetence. I made a little progress and felt myself letting go of grievances more easily. I will try to keep the better habit going now that I am free to complain again.

I might have to stay away from the computer lab, though.

Serenity now!

About Marcy

I blog about trying to get out of my comfort zone, completing 101 things in 1001 days, and writing my memoirs. I am a teacher and writer living in Connecticut.
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8 Responses to It took me only 13 days to stop complaining for a week

  1. Shannon says:

    Great job! I think it would take me longer than 13 days, if it ever even happened at all… :)

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  3. Oh my – giving up complaining? Not sure if I could do that. No sirree. Sometimes a good complain is what keeps me sane.
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  4. Very interesting and entertaining, I only have one complaint. When you say that….er…nevermind.

    Cranky Old Man
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  5. MultipleMum says:

    Who makes these goals up? I doubt I could do it! I think you are my new hero! Thanks for Rewinding and blog hopping!!!! X
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  6. Rhonda says:

    Hi There! Visiting from the Weekend Rewind. Love this post and this idea. I admire that it only took you thirteen days. I probably would still be working on this.

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